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title: "It is okay to be angry"
description: "It is okay to be angryImagine: you work on a project for months, give it your all and right before the finish line a colleague takes all the credit. It is…"
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# It is okay to be angry

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### It is okay to be angry

Imagine: you work on a project for months, give it your all and right before the finish line a colleague takes all the credit. It is normal for a wave of frustration and anger to wash over you. But is anger really as bad as we often think? Let us explore the importance of being angry and how we can use this emotion to our advantage.

#### Useful

Anger is a natural reaction that helps us recognise injustice. It is a signal that something needs to change. Scientific research shows that anger, if channelled correctly, can make us more assertive and goal-oriented. It gives us the urge to take action against injustices, which in a professional setting can lead to raising problems that would otherwise go unnoticed.

#### Pitfalls

However, as with any powerful emotion, anger comes with its pitfalls. It can cloud our judgement and lead to impulsive actions that do more harm than good. Anger can damage relationships, both professionally and personally, and can create a toxic work environment if it is not managed well.

#### Kind

It is important to be kind to yourself when you are angry. Acknowledge that anger is a valid and normal human emotion. The key is to learn how to acknowledge your anger without letting it overpower you. This requires self-awareness and self-regulation, core skills in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), which help in understanding your own emotional reactions and navigating them effectively.

#### Constructive

Here are some tips to deal with anger constructively:

Reflection: Take a moment to cool down before you react. This helps you to organise your thoughts and get a clearer perspective.

Expression: Communicate your feelings in an assertive, but non-aggressive way. Explain why you are angry and what you would like to change.

Looking for solutions: Use the energy of your anger to look for solutions instead of getting stuck in the problem.

Forgiveness: Sometimes letting go of anger and forgiving the mistakes of others is the most productive way to move forward.

#### **Conclusion**

Being angry is not something to be ashamed of or to fear. It is a powerful emotion that, if managed well, can lead to positive changes. By acknowledging your anger and approaching it in a constructive way, you can not only improve the situations you find yourself in, but also promote your personal and professional growth. Remember: it is okay to be angry, but it is even more important to know what you do with that anger.

*By Karl Mortier*